I have
said in the past that I would like to leve Facebook. In fact, in one post I
even said that I would start retreating from the behemoth, but I never really
wanted to. I think that Facebook served a purpose – you know, reconnecting me
with Connie and giving my future wife. So I can’t be too harsh on the place,
really. Though, despite this incredible gift Facebook has eroded all things
that make it likeable, and slowly and surely it’s became a waste of time and
space.
The
first thing that Facebook did wrong was become so powerful. Successful websites
come and go, but I feel that Facebook has reached a critical mass – it is so
big it can’t really fall down now. It’s unlikely to go the way of Myspace and
Lycos if they keep doing what they are doing right now, which is pervading all
aspects of someone’s life before putting it into monetary terms. Like the Open
Graph sharing aspect, or the ability to link almost all types of media using
Facebook (but with an interspatial link that registers with Facebook anytime
someone goes through it). Then there are
the games that million of people play that will keep people coming back to
Facebook and keep companies developing games for that.
The
funny thing is that this is exactly the problem I have with Facebook – on my
feed there are people sharing nonsense and fluff, apps adding updates about
things I have no interest in, and even worse the site has started to look so
dreadful and bloated it might be impossible to find things that you want to do
on it.
In a
roundabout way – I am over Facebook. And slowly, over time, I am going to
delete it. I am firstly going to cull a lot of my “friends”. There are four
types of people on my Facebook friends list: my close friends and family, my
colleagues and people I worked with, my “internet” friends from Twitter and
message boards, and people I used to be in contact with but now I don’t. Back when I used to get regular requests from
people finding Facebook for the first time if they didn’t contact me within 72
hours of friending me they were deleted. I stopped doing this because I don’t
use Facebook enough to be on it all the time.
The
first thing that I am going to do is start removing people that I don’t want to
have on there. It feels hard to delete friends (clever Facebook) but it
shouldn’t be – just because I am not keeping you on my internet profile doesn’t
mean I hate you. Indeed, if we are friends you already have my other methods of
contact, either on my phone, email or even on the other social network Twitter
(more on that below). This will mean that the network of people that I am
getting information from and giving information to is limited and personal.
This
step will be done and then tested – if it makes a dramatic change on the
relevancy of my Facebook page then it might be enough to change my mind. If
not, however (and this is where my suspicions lie) then the following will be
followed.
Secondly
I will stop posting to Facebook. I rarely do this anyway (bar the occasional
self promoting message or the loving cross-post from Instagram) but the other
things, like photos, are easier to stop. See, Facebook doesn’t have any
copyright control on photos, whereas Flickr does and I prefer that one – if
people want to see my photos, I’ll given them the ability to see them in High
Quality with proper information about them.
Thirdly...
I will stop going to Facebook. I did this a few years ago in the Exile but have
already deleted the Facebook app from my phone. I don’t miss looking at no more
than my hands would miss hold a cigarette – the motion of opening Facebook is
more tantalising than the actual moment of opening it.
If I do the
entire of the above and still feel disconnected from the site there is only one
further option; deletion.
Note: many
reading this will wonder a few things:
The
first is surely to be “this can’t be that big a deal! Just do it already!”
Well, I actually do like Facebook for contacting friends. It’s good – I just
think that it’s losing its focus and I want to rein back my control to see if
it makes a difference.
The
second is likely to be “you have Twitter! You cried when it was deleted last
year! Why not get rid of it too?” I
answer this query by simply saying that I control what happens on Twitter more,
who feeds into my feed, and more importantly it’s not full of bollocks just
yet. Indeed, it’s got scope for breaking this in the future, but the limitation
of 140 characters ensures no games or applications fill my feed with nonsense.
